How to be more masculine? What even is the perfect, true masculinity we often ask ourselves? In today’s society, it is very important, that we know about those concepts because there are many misunderstandings of these topics, on male as well as on female sides. In this guide, we will try to explain the concept of true masculinity, recommend some books, and break some of the stereotypes, connected with true masculinity. Then we’ll delve into how to overcome challenges part at the end.
Understanding True Masculinity
“Masculinity is not something given to you, but something you gain. And you gain it by winning small battles with honor.”Norman Mailer
Here are many different definitions about what’s true masculinity. Every country can have theirs.
But if we look at the core of what masculinity looks like, we can capture 4 qualities that every man would want, need, and demand from other men.
Those qualities are:
Strength was always a quality of men because they had to provide, and in favor to do that, you sometimes had to kill, capture, overtake, etc.
Our ancestors had to fight the mammoth, and those who weren’t strong enough, unfortunately, weren’t able to stay alive and pass their genes forward.
Also, women could trust men who were strong enough to provide, and keep them alive too.
By strength, I mean emotional as well as mental and physical strength.
All of them are essential if you want to live a life of true masculinity.
Your strength can’t help you if you are scared of your opponents, your obstacles.
If you want to be more masculine, be more courageous.
Never back down from challenges, and don’t accept your fears but fight them.
Only this way you could find your true masculinity in you.
Skills don’t take a lot of time to achieve.
What it takes is to be consistent, that’s more challenging.
Be consistent and you will become a master.
And masters are always masculine, strong, and courageous.
Also, a masculine person is honorable.
He or she always respects others, if others respect him or her.
Be a good man, but not necessarily nice.
You have to know when to forgive, surrender, and show your weaker side.
On the other hand, you have to know when to strike forward and when not to settle for less than you demand.
Don’t forget that in favor to achieve true masculinity you have to be honorable.
True Masculinity shatters antiquated notions of dominance, aggression, and emotional detachment often associated with manhood.
It redefines masculinity as a nuanced interplay of strength, vulnerability, and empathy. Contrary to the belief that power lies in domination, true masculinity recognizes the strength in vulnerability.
Real-life examples abound of men who exemplify this paradigm shift.
Take, for instance, renowned figures like Nelson Mandela, whose unwavering dedication to justice and reconciliation showcased the potency of compassion and forgiveness.
Similarly, figures like Fred Rogers, known for his gentle demeanor and commitment to nurturing emotional intelligence, challenge the stereotype that strength hinges on stoicism.
In everyday life, fathers who express love openly, friends who offer unwavering support, and leaders who prioritize collaboration over coercion exemplify true masculinity.
By embodying qualities beyond rigid stereotypes, these individuals prove that genuine strength arises from authenticity, empathy, and the courage to defy outdated conventions.
As a man, you will experience some hard times.
It is inevitable. Your mission should not be to avoid those hard times, but rather prepare for them.
There’s a good quote that sums that up:
“Expect the best. Prepare for the worst. Capitalize on what comes.“Zig Ziglar
Here’s this book, that talks about how hard times create strong men.
Go read it, if you want to learn more about true masculinity and why we men must be strong in favor of creating good times for all of us.
BONUS: Recommended books on True Masculinity
The Way of the Superior Man focuses on understanding and embracing masculine and feminine energies within oneself. This book is a must-read for every man if he wants to live by their purpose and find more about their true calling.
Viktor E. Frankl explores the importance of finding purpose and meaning in life, which is a fundamental aspect of true masculinity. You can’t live a life without a purpose and expect to feel true masculinity. If you haven’t yet, find your purpose.
Aarnio offers insights on harnessing inner strength, responsibility, and leadership. This book is a rallying call for men to embrace true masculinity and navigate modern challenges with courage and wisdom.
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